Today’s book review of a self-help guide (for a change) is brought to you by yours truly, Morgen Bailey.
‘From Invisible to Irresistible’ by Peter Jones
Synopsis: From Invisible to Irresistible is the shorter, quirkier, but none-the-less completely gorgeous companion guide to How To Start Dating And Stop Waiting. Through a series of twelve anecdotes Peter Jones highlights (and fixes) those underlying problems, that make otherwise attractive charming people invisible to those they’d like to date. Chapters include: Changing Your Mind – How you can think yourself more attractive, and why a little back-to-front logic might work wonders; Changing Your Image – Why it might be a good idea to cut off your hair (or grow it back), how to shed pounds without spending a fortune, and why hiring a professional image consultant could be a waste of money; and Changing Your Environment – Why sitting at home in front of the TV isn’t a dating strategy, why some of your friends are holding you back, and why it’s vitally important to have the right sofa.
This book is available via http://www.amazon.co.uk/From-Invisible-To-Irresistible-Attracting/dp/1494784130, http://www.amazon.com/From-Invisible-To-Irresistible-Attracting/dp/1494784130 etc. Peter’s website is http://peterjonesauthor.com.
In fiction, we make a big deal about title; how they have to represent the contents. In non-fiction, it’s even more important, and this one certainly caught my attention. I was invited to review the book and I know the author (which doesn’t affect my reviews, by the way – I’m just as tough an editor with them too!).
Via the front index, we’re invited to change our mind, image and environment (Peter then explains that he did the second and got the girl).
The ‘Change Your Mind’ section encourages us to lose ‘toxic’ friends – those only too eager to bring us down. I have two close friends who have had a lot of bad luck (mostly economic) over the past few months and rather than sapping my energy, I love helping them. Most people love to be needed, wanted, but I know what Peter’s getting at; there are those who just love misery and enjoy bringing others down to their level. I have asked myself over the years whether someone is a 3a.m. friend? Would they be there if I needed them in the early hours? If the answer’s ‘no’, then it’s likely you can cut loose.
Peter has a wonderfully simple equation: We think that Me + a girl* = happiness (or ‘boy’ in my case) but really Me + happiness = a girl (boy). The old saying that we have to love ourselves before we can love anyone else really is true. This is then followed by the first of several action points (laced with humour).
There are generally three levels of single people: single and happy (with being single); single and looking (that’s me, or rather somewhere in between); single and desperate (definitely not me) and the next section covers the latter.
The book continues with various themes of self-worth and, as Peter says, it’s very easy to think negative self-talk.