Today’s guest blog post is brought to you by Bishop John I Cline where he talks about the inspiration behind his latest book. See below for details of Bishop Cline’s giveaway.
The Monogamy Mystery
Infidelity has been a destructive force to the institution of marriage. Many husbands and wives find themselves in the middle of extra-marital affairs, not because they want to destroy their marriages; not because they do not love their spouses and not because they are inherently evil or bad-intentioned. In many cases, persons admitting to infidelity have no explicable reason to offer for examination; they are genuinely regretful of the behavior and the hurt it causes, yet they may find themselves in the same situation over and over again. In counseling many of these people (in my role as a senior pastor), I have understood them, I have cried with them, I have sympathized with them and I have empathized with them. I have counseled them on the best ways to prevent infidelity going forward and how to survive infidelity in marriage, yet at the root of the problems that rise to the surface, a question consistently resonates: Were we really designed to be monogamous?
I am of the firm belief that knowledge is power and information is key. If persons are adequately armed with the correct information, they can make informed and more intelligent life decisions to their benefit instead of to their detriment. My total life experiences have brought me to a place where I have formed the view that it has become urgent to unearth some necessary truths and understanding about monogamy and inter-personal relationships in an effort to stop, correct and guide future generations of persons who opt for committed relationships in their ultimate pursuit of happiness. The book takes the reader on an exciting and truth-seeking journey to encourage a dialog on this issue of monogamy that has remained a mystery to so many of us for far too long.
Monogamy in its strictest sense of definition (which is also its biblical intention) means marriage to one marriage partner or the condition or practice of being married once in a person’s lifetime. It is derived from the Greek words, monos – meaning “one” and gamos – meaning “marriage”. Monogamy as it has been accepted today from a more sociological aspect (social monogamy) can also mean the practice or condition of having a single, sexual partner, either during a person’s life time (monogamy in its true sense) or during a period of time (monogamy in its serial sense). Similarly, in Zoology, monogamy is the practice or condition of having only one mate during the breeding life of a pair of animals (true monogamy) or during the breeding season of a pair of animals (serial monogamy).
One of the world’s biggest unsolved mysteries is the question of whether monogamy is natural. Most of us will find no struggle in accepting that “monogamy” is certainly uncommon. However, the vexed question with respect to monogamy and where many of us struggle is whether it is unnatural. Was it really intended and expected for created man (being both man and woman in this context) to be monogamous? Is biblical authority on this issue spiritual authority? What is really meant by monogamy, adultery, fornication and illicit sexual relationships where these terms are discussed in the Bible? Is monogamy a spiritual obligation or is it a religious and/or regulated social obligation? Many of us, and the Church, in particular, would prefer to dismiss a debate of this nature as it would tend to challenge our theological foundations in many respects. However, dismissing the issue and not tackling this long standing problem head on is a mistake and is perhaps one of the reasons marriages in society are in the eternal chaos that they are in. The purpose of this book is to explore these issues from a natural, physical, biblical, sociological and spiritual perspective and to offer a conclusive view on the essence of monogamy from my own panorama.
The book explores and discusses the various definitions, extrapolations and permutations of the word monogamy from ancient, biblical times to the present and discusses the biblical origin and authority for monogamy. The biology of created man as juxtaposed to the ideals of monogamy is examined. The concept of monogamy in society in the ancient/biblical era and monogamy in society in modern times is analyzed and compared. The purpose and importance of (a) monogamy from an individual perspective; (b) monogamy in marriage; (c) monogamy in the family unit; and (d) monogamy in the wider society is illustrated and highlighted; and will the consequences of monogamy (its advantages and disadvantages) are explained. The importance of understanding the purpose of marriage is underscored and a very interesting conversation as to society’s views on infidelity and monogamy is presented. Guidance as to how created man can stop the fall out, the hurt, the pain and the break downs in marriages caused by anti-monogamous behavior; the importance of separating the sinner/wrongdoer from the sin/wrong has been highlighted, as well as helpful tips as to how relationships can survive infidelity. The dialog begins to conclude with an in depth study of spirituality and a critical analysis as to whether spirituality is a necessary or the necessary substance to the successful practicing of true or serial monogamy in interpersonal relationships. The question raised as to whether it was indeed intended for created man to be monogamous will be answered. The dialog concludes with the provision of guidance to future generations in which I will emphasize the importance of ensuring that younger generations steer their interpersonal relationships in a happy, fulfilling and successful direction.
The book will raise questions in the minds of the readers. Couples reading this book together can have healthy discussions from a holistic perspective about one of the biggest problems wreaking havoc on relationships. It can bring some level of unfiltered understanding in society amongst sexual partners (married or unmarried, religious or non-religious) on sexual behavior. It will however, challenge the spiritual beliefs of certain readers and question behavior patterns that some readers regard or regarded as normal.
Thank you, Bishop Cline.
As a teenager, he left the shores of the British Virgin Islands to further his education and broaden his horizons in the United States of America by way of the United States Virgin Islands. With his training in electronic engineering in hand and some work experience in the USA, he returned to the British Virgin Islands in 1993. Since that time, he has launched many successful businesses including Infinite Solutions, a trading store through which he markets and sells consumer electronics, and Atlantis Solar, through which he markets, promotes and distributes alternative energy products locally, regionally and internationally.
In 1997, the Church, under his leadership, constructed new premises and relocated from Road Town to Duff’s bottom under the name New Life Baptist Church. Three years later, the New Life Day Care and Learning Centre was constructed to ensure that children were being indoctrinated with biblical teaching during these wonder years. He was consecrated to the Office of the Bishop and inducted in the College of Bishops as a presbyter, adjudicator and an examiner in October 2005. In 2011, he spearheaded the construction of the church’s Save the Seed Centre, a multi-million-dollar recreational facility intended to target the youth generation – a generation he feels in dire need of attention and rescue.
He is also the founding member of the New Life Baptist Church Foundation. The Church’s most recent international philanthropic efforts have included providing financial support to a school in Africa, The Tortola Child Rescue and Learning Centre, where the most recent efforts have been the construction of the secondary school, thereby ensuring that each student in the school has an opportunity to continue his or her education through the secondary level.
He attributes his success to godly parents, strong family ties, a caring church, and a supportive community and he desires to ‘pass it on!”
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Bishop Cline is also offering you the chance to win the following fabulous prizes:
- 1st Prize: $50 Amazon.com gift certificate and autographed copy of THE Monogamy MYSTERY
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